FOR TRAINERS: Motivation by the sense
If you want to set your life in motion, move yourself first!
Yesterday, I was having a lunch with my colleague coach, a former longtime tennis partner. During the meal, we picked up the theme of tennis trainove and physically prepare for the upcoming competitive pace. He remarked that if he did not need the money he would have cleared his way a long time ago. On that occasion, we agreed to train tomorrow.
The day passed and we met on the tennis court. The colleague, yesterday unmoved, was today cheerful and fresh. Unlike yesterday, he behaved diametrically differently. He himself initiated our running and indicated the pace of warm-up.
What happened to you? I ask. Are you somehow motivated?
He swallowed deliberately and began:
“You know, yesterday I realized something. Lately, a lot of people around me have been saying that I was negative and pessimistic. I also noticed it myself, so it made me wonder why I feel this way. And as I was thinking, and for a long time could not figure out why, something else came to my mind: it is not so important why I felt this way, but how to get out of it. Suddenly a solution came to light: I realized that always in the past, when I felt positive and fulfilled, there was a lot of physical movement in my life. I played tennis, soccer, squash or I walked in the mountains, I was simply moving. And so I thought that rather than trying to concentrate on positive things, which is a hell for me now, I can turn that principle the other way around. I will start to move and maybe I will adjust my inner settings to positive. At that moment, as if I lit up, I felt completely different. “
I had to smile. Without being aware of this, my friend has just discovered one of the powerful principles of self-satisfaction that therapists and coaches lead their clients with. It lies in that when you are feeling down and the things are not going the way you want, close your eyes, tune in and combine it with the feeling of your past when everything was fine. What was the situation? What was the life stage? What did you do then and do not do today? Perhaps you will discover the very forgotten activity that will be the key to solving your problem.
In his case, this activity was physical movement itself. But what is actually (physical) movement? The word itself conceals a clear message.
Movement is energy. Movement is a force.
Movement is something that sets the pace of our lives, whether physical, emotional or thought-like – we wonder about something and try to find solution to it. Where there is movement, there is life. And where there is life, there is also a desire to look at things positively.
After an hour of training, when my colleague was running across the court with the maximum energy and dedication, I could not wait anymore, and for a moment I turned away from the role of a friend to the role of coach in order to get his insight into the conscious level: “Do you know what’s going on here? . “Do you know why now you have the energy to give away and you can run at the maximum pace?” He looked at me and shrugged. “Because you have found the deeper sense of today’s training than just the preparation for matches and competitions. This is the movement itself that might be a way to fulfill your life for you. I have a feeling from you that you really know why you are on the court now! “
Here I come across a major problem in the field of motivation. There are many of us who, in a figurated sense, “do not know why we are at the court”. We do something without really knowing why we we are doing it. Likewise, trainers and teachers constantly invent new exercises, infinitely pumping their energies through the principle of carrot and stick in the form of stimulating and praising instead of sparking their inner light – by deepening of understanding into a wider context – what is the meaning of this particular activity and what can it bring to me not only in sport, but also to life.
However, the main question still remains, how?
In the next article I will give an example of my practice where I will describe the course of such a process that can be an inspiration for many trainers who are confronted with the topic on a daily basis.